Don't Speak

SO. I heard something really interesting yesterday and I wanted to share it with you.
So we've just had the Christmas period right, which involves a lot of parties and social gatherings, catch-ups etc, each involving a lot of mingling. Despite what you may believe, I am not very good at this! (In groups that is, in smaller groups you know I am the bomb and could talk for a lifetime haha!) Even with people I know really well I just get completely stuck for conversation starters and with those I don't know at all I just sit there awkwardly, probably playing with my phone. 

Anyway, I was moaning about this to someone, and how I tend to get quite upset whenever I talk about something I get really excited about and they give a blank face in return. This person's response was amazing, she basically sat there looking at me for a little bit and asked, "well do you ever ask about their interests and passions?"

My mind was blown. Do I ever ask or engage in their passions unless I know they're the same as mine? I did not actually think so. I felt ultra awkward.

So here is my challenge (largely to myself but also for you guys maybe a little bit). When you're in a conversation do you ever ask about their interests and passions (whomever they may be)? Especially if the conversation is awkward and you're feeling like you have nothing to say. If, like me, you often do not engage in conversation like that why don't you try it sometime? To see the look on somebody's face when they talk about something they love and their eyes light up, it's amazing.

Do let me know how it goes as well! Let's learn about other fun things and you never know, maybe it'll spark some new passions, who knows? Let's also not forget that it shows the person you're speaking to that you're actually investing in them, especially if it's someone you're close to. I'm gonna try and be less selfish with my conversations, join me if you like. ♥